The name "parshas hachodesh" is somewhat of a misnomer given that there is exactly one pasuk that relates to kiddush hachodesh and the entire rest of the parsha is aboue the laws of korban pesach. We call it "hachodesh" in recognition of the fact that the mitzvah of korban pesach would be impossible to receive or observe unless it was preceded by a hischadshus, a renewal -- of spirit, of outlook, of commitment. That is what the mitzvah of kiddush hachodesh teaches us. It's like when you want to paint an old wall. You won't get the optimal results if you just slap a new coat of pain on top of all the old layers. You have to scrape the all paint off, prime the wall, restore it to shape, and only then apply the new paint.
The 5 year anniversary of Covid has been in the news lately. I don't want to revisit all the stupid things done and said by people back then. (Those things should be revisited at some point, but it's not my job and it's not for now.) I want to focus on hischadshus. You remember all those weddings in backyards, in small halls, in all kinds of venues, sometimes with only a minyan present? Remember when people said that it's about time we scale back simchas and do away with the lavish, expensive and unnecessary things that go into a simcha? How long did that commitment last once Covid was over? People who really can't afford it are back to going into debt to keep up with the Cohens, people are back to vorts and l'chaims that are the size of weddings, people are hiring party planners and decorators for halls for things like a weekday bris. And where is the voice of the establishment, the rabbinical organizations? Where are they when they should be decrying the return to ab-normalcy?
Remember when shuls re-opened and people were talking about making a commitment to respecting kedushas beis ha'knesses, a commitment to showing how much we value our places of worship? How quickly that faded as well. How many times is your shmoneh esrei interrupted by the sound of a cell phone going off? I happened to see on shabbos -- and this is not a yotzei min haklel -- someone who had a giant cup of iced coffee parked right there at their makom, right next to the siddur. There is no sense of busha about it, and why should there be? This has become the new normal. (The truth is that if you don't teach proper behavior when your kids are chinuch age, I fear it is a lost cause.) You think the Rav or a gabbai is going to dare come over and tell that person this is not how to behave in a shul? Yet during Covid when shuls finally started to have minyanim you can bet that in certain places the gabbai or Rabbi would come over bounce you out if you had no mask. Mai sh'na?
Remember when people made pesach at home, surrounded by their immediate family members? These days people like myself who do that must seem nuts. There is the l'chatchila of spending thousands of $ per person to go to some exotic hotel, and bdieved, there is Orlando, where instead of staying in your own kosher home, shopping in your own local kosher grocery, you ship your kitchen kelim to some 100& treif home, kasher it, ship your food and wine, all so that you don't have to be in your own neighborhood. When I say "kol dichpein..." I don’t have no worry lest anyone will actually show up at the door because where I live, there is hardly a soul left in town over the chag. What Rav is going to tell people to stay home when many of them also look to grap a slot on the lecture circuit at these hotels? Who doesn't want a free vacation in exchange for a "lecture" given between the cabaret show and the golf?
Covid should have been a renwal. The old paint should have come off, new primer put on, our house should look like new. But instead, what happened is a thin coat of cheap paint got thrown on top of all the old layers, with all the same cracks still there, all the flaws inevitably set to resurface -- and indeed, in many places, they have.
It's always dangerous to write critical posts, so I hope everything here is just hyperbole and exaggeration and none of it applies to any of our shuls or communities and we should all be zocheh to daven in quiet, mekomos kedoshim, to have simchas that fulfill the spirit of "hatzne'a leches," and we should all enjoy Y"T in whatever wonderful kosher places we find ourselves.