I have a Purim-related question. I just found out that the learning for boys that has become en vogue in many Shuls on Purim morning is often sponsored by people financially so that they can get the merits of the learning or some other Zechus for their family…I found this out because we asked the Shuls in our area if they could give the boys the name of a sick relative of ours to keep in mind and say Tehillim for while they are there and we were told we would have to cough up some money. Every Shul, but one had the same response. Any thoughts on this?Orthonomics focuses her attention on the “she’lo lishma” attitude created by these prizes, many of which are not items we would necessarily want our kids to have. But I am more troubled by the attitude of shuls that demand $ for praying for the zechus of a choleh. I am sorry, but this attitude just makes me sick, and this is not the first instance of these type tactics that I have witnessed. Of course the shul can suggest that the person contribute to sponsoring the event. Of course the shul needs to raise tzedaka. But when it comes to the point that praying for a choleh comes with a price tag attached, a quid pro quo, a bill that demands payment or you just are not part of the program, that is where I part ways with whatever organizations run these events. Just my 2 cents.
Monday, March 24, 2008
demanding $ to daven for a choleh
I hate to “steal” someone else’s post, but I feel so strongly about this issue that I want to add my two cents. Orthonomics posts a comment from one of her readers: