The Sefas Emes (5650) writes that in the entirety of Vayeitzei there is no parsha break (stuma or petucha). Yaakov blasted through the 20+ years he was in Charan at Lavan's home with no pause, no vacation. This is the "yamaim achadim" his mother had sent him to be there for -- "achadim" = one unit, one purpose, no distractions. Stay true to your mission, stay in your lane, and leave when it's time to leave.
That's not so easy to do, even for a Yaakov Avinu. When Yaakov finally does leave, Lavan chases after him. Hashem appears to Lavan (31:24) and warns him הִשָּׁ֧מֶר לְךָ֛ פֶּן־תְּדַבֵּ֥ר עִֽם־יַעֲקֹ֖ב מִטּ֥וֹב עַד־רָֽע. Seforno comments (see Ramban as well): לא תפתנו שישוב בתתך לו תקוה להיטיב עמו. Don't tempt Yaakov to return with promises that you will do good for him. Consider the context: Yaakov left Lavan's home not only because he overheard Lavan's children speaking ill of him, but because he received a tzivuy from Hashem to do so, and he consulted with both Rachel and Leah to get their buy in as well. You would think that whatever Lavan might say in regards to Yaakov's returning to his home would be a waste of breath. Yet Lavan had to be warned לא תפתנו -- don't try to tempt him. It's hard to avoid that temptation once it's presented, no matter what the circumstance.
If there was a danger of Yaakov being tempted to return to Charan despite the tzivuy from Hashem, despite the animosity he faced there, despite Rachel and Leah's agreement with his decision to leave, is it any wonder that we end up staying where we are and not leaving when we have the temptations of a dozen kosher restaurants in the neighborhood, multiple shuls to choose from, yeshivos for the kids, and a nice suburban home too?
> Yet Lavan had to be warned לא תפתנו -- don't try to tempt him. <ReplyDelete
Ad kan haRishonim.
> It's hard to avoid that temptation once it's presented, no matter what the circumstance. <
That's your reading, not theirs; and I'm not sure why you're turning the object of the pasuq from Lavan haRasha to Ya'aqov Avinu, much less assuming "there was a danger of Yaakov being tempted to return to Charan despite the tzivuy from Hashem"....
I personally don't like fish. Were you to warn someone not to "tempt" me with a delicious fish meal, the words would be nonsensical. Since I don't like fish, the meal would not be a temptation for me.ReplyDelete
Apply to the pasuk and I think that answers your question.